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DrivingMeNutes says:
February 9, 2011 at 8:16 pm
In general, I don’t think there’s really much of a difference between men and women in this area. Women CHOOSE to believe that men “like the chase” or “like mystery” because it is much easier to blame men and their supposedly “confusing behavior” when the obvious reality is that people have an overinflated view of their level attractiveness and women who ask men out and then get rejected are simply aiming “too high.” The men were never interested in the first place. Maybe they were giving you a chance (as you might do too when a guy asks you out) or maybe they were using you for sex (as you might do to get a free meal.) But, they are not “turned off” by the fact that you ask them out.

So, bottom line is, you can ask men out or not. It does no harm, but also doesn’t necessary do much good either – other than increasing your number of opportunities (which is probably beneficial on balance). But, it won’t change anything in substance because you simply don’t get to CHOOSE who is attracted to you. The solution, for the women complaining, is to figure out realistically who is attainable and go for those guys. If you’re actually being realistic, you won’t be rejected.

And, the same applies for the guys, of course.

Oh, that’s right, I’m single, so I shouldn’t be giving advice. Nevermind.

asking a guy out CAUSES him to not be interested in you. He was likely not really interested in you to begin with and is either giving you a chance or is

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